How To Reinvent Yourself After A Breakup


Breakups are hard, everyone knows that, but I think the hardest part is when you realise you’re now out there in the world on your own – regardless of how long you were both together, in that period of time you were a couple and you could use your partner as your comfort blanket.

Depending on the way things ended between the two of you, there are different ways people deal with being by themselves for the first time in a while. The most toxic and detrimental way is to separate yourself from the outside world, to let the breakup take over you and make you feel your worst.



It doesn’t matter if you made the decision to separate or they did, the weeks that follow are going to be strange without them either way, but they can be made positive and you can turn a bad situation into a good one. 

For me, I found it was really important to stay motivated. I wanted to use that period time to focus on who I am and who I wanted to be in the future – to reinvent myself. If you haven’t been on your own for a while, it can be hard to figure out how to do that and also how to not slip into bad habits (like wanting to just sit and mope in your room to sad songs – the worst way to waste your time!).


I’ve come up with 5 different ways to reinvent yourself, all of these have worked for me and helped me to stay happy and positive after my breakup…


  1. Spend Time With Your Friends
    When you’re in a relationship it can be so easy to just spend all your time with that one person, and that’s not necessarily a bad thing but you end up not seeing enough of your friends. When you’re newly single it’s so important to surround yourself with the people who are going to make you laugh and forget about being on your own. Make and spend as much time as possible with your friends and those first few weeks will fly by, you’ll be having so much fun you won’t have time to be sad!
  2. Focus On Your Future
    It doesn’t matter where you are now career wise, it’s where you want to be and how you’re going to get there. If you’re already where you want to be, great, continue to put in 100%. If you aren’t, think about what you can do to get closer to your future, success doesn’t come overnight but the sooner you start the sooner you’ll get there. 
  3. Start Or Continue A Hobby
    I should imagine now that you’re single you have a lot of free time on your hands, use that time to have a hobby! Pursuing a hobby that I hadn’t put much time into in a while really helped me have something to focus on, I always had something to do which completely took my mind off of everything else.
  4. Declutter 
    As soon as you think you’re ready, go through all the things you have from your ex partner. For me, this wasn’t something I did instantly, this  has to be when you want to and not when everyone else thinks you should. Then, have a deep clean of your space, throw out old clothes and freshen up your surroundings – you’ll feel so much better! 
  5. Love Yourself
    This last one seems very cliche but I promise it’s the most important. After a breakup it’s very easy to think back and blame yourself for what went wrong, this is the easiest way to slip back into a dark place. Now that you have all this time to yourself, you need to be YOU. The sooner you start loving yourself, the happier you’ll be and the sooner you’ll move on. 



Of course there are many other ways you can help yourself move on from a relationship, do what you need to do to make you feel better. Every breakup doesn’t have to have that ugly sour ending, why not be the bigger person and wake up happier, motivated and excited about your future.

Be positive and be the best version of yourself, that definitely worked for me. 


Outfit – Zara


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